Categories schmategories

I read some interesting posts recently about definitions - including this one on porn, erotica, romance, and romantic erotica - and how the lines between them are pretty porous. This speaks to my own pondering about how to classify Erotiquette, but I really am still no clearer. I guess erotica still fits best as it is sex that drives the story, but it also has a developing relationship. There is no way, however, I would call it a typical romance story. So the pondering continues, and in the end I hope categories simply do not matter, but it does seem that some authors - and most publishers - have drawn quite severe lines between them all, and not always in the same ways.

I hope my next novel has no such conundrum. It's going well, I think, and I've nearly finished the first full draft (after which it will need lots of editing, naturally). How would I classify this one? Simply women's fiction, I think. It is the journey of a woman moving out of a problematic marriage, trying to find herself again while dealing with her past, and making some, at times odd, friendships along the way. Even though this is not the reason I chose the story, maybe it will be easier for publishers to slot this one into their cabinet of books.